If there is only one thing that you are given by excessive
dating, it is an endless amount of opinions to make someone a good match
on relationships and dating.
So, when we enter into the dating
field that is the so-called strange wilderness, what kind of behavior is
suitable and expected?
Women
You are expected to hold your
high standards. Every once in a while, in the relationship or dating
game, you have to take the lead and not be content to passively sit back
to await things to happen. During a disagreement, you'd better not
share cave but convictions. You are expected to accept the consequences
along with the rewards and own your sexuality. It is wise not to settle
for mediocrity and expect a lot from men. When coupled up, you are able
to continue flying solo and living a life you enjoy. You need to find
your equilibrium being a feminist and feminine. In the pursuit of
finding your happiness, you have to acquiesce to others and bend some
traditional gender roles. If you're not fine, you don't have to say
you're fine, to be honest instead. Because emotions are not bad
inherently, you are expected to never apologize for being emotional.
Men
You
are expecting to initiate plans. If you say you will, you have to call,
and you need to at least pay for the first date. You are required to
order a bottle of wine and make a reservation. You are welcomed to show
interest in what I am saying to carry the conversation. You are expected
to speak about your interests passionately and speak of your mother
fondly. You can have interests, like watching football or playing video
games, just won't cut it anymore. You have to stand strong in your
beliefs and morals, and show understanding and empathy for those
different morals and beliefs. You are expected to treat your partner
equal and not write off her experiences only because these experiences
are not yours. You have to show affection towards the people and the
things you love.
Women and Men
You have to be as honest as
possible and be kind toward each other. You should rationally
communicate without resorting to passive-aggression and name calling.
When you're wrong, you are required to apologize, and when you mean it,
say I love you. You have to always support your partner and build the
one up. You can push each other and challenge each other to exceed your
potential. While figuring out your identity within a couple, you need to
hold your individuality. You should appreciate the good times and have
tough times. You can date lots of different people and try new things,
when you know it's right, commit to one. When it's worth the risk of
getting hurt, you can push through the fear and be afraid.
You are
expected to expect these things from the people you date, your friends,
and yourself. They cannot always meet your expectations. But it's
important to establish what we expect from people, so when we are
disappointed, we know it. We know that we shouldn't settle. We know that
we deserve more from other people and from ourselves.